Community highlights New rules: Account age and karma minimums Announcement votes • comments New rules: Account age and karma minimums New rule: no political trolling Announcement votes • comment New rule: no political trolling I (21F) haven't been able to find a job in my field after graduating college as an assistant teacher. Schools simply don't want me and I'm under qualified for working in daycares. Luckily, I live in a region where quite literally knows each other. My grandma put on an ad for me on Facebook and within no-time, I became a full time babysitter. I've done this for 2 years now and I've gotten quite the reputation. And in those 2 years I've come across something that has been the weirdest thing that has happened in my career. I've been babysitting for this family, let's call them the Smiths, for a year now. It's a mom (29F), dad (36M) with their 18 month old daughter. I babysat for them only on evenings and from the beginning they told me that their daughter has trouble staying asleep when they're not home. The weird thing then was that they said it was because "She needs our aura", which I just brushed off as them being first time parents. Ever since day one, the kid would just hysterically cry after I've put her to sleep. When I came to check up on her, she would have sick on herself from crying so much. I would then change her, soothe her and put her back to bed. Only for the cycle to repeat again. The first months I would only babysit her once a month, until it became biweekly the last few months. This situation would never change tho, it was always the same. The parents kept their word of the kid just yearning their presence and theirs alone, until the biweekly phase. I would look exhausted and they would say "Are you sure you did everything to prevent this?", which I told them I did. They then told me they would search for someone else, because they didn't think I was professional enough to handle this situation. And to be honest, they made me doubt my skills as a graduate teaching assistant and full-time babysitter for 2 years. I then came up with a plan, I had to get to the bottom of this. And so I started noticing a pattern. I would put the kid to bed without issues around 18.30 and then around 19.00 each time she would hysterically cry. I found it to be odd to be almost exactly 30 minutes each time, as no kid I've babysat for ever had this pattern before. One night, instead of going downstairs after putting the kid to bed, I grabbed my Ipad to draw and patiently sat in the hallway next to the door. Then after 30 minutes (!), I heard adult voices coming from her room. Without entering the room I listened and it was her parents talking to her, through the baby monitor!!! They were telling her how much they missed her and they'd be home soon to cuddle her. I got very pissed, as they told me they never used the baby monitor. I waited until they stopped talking before entering the room to do the routine I did everytime. This time I took the child with me downstairs, dimmed all lights and laid her down to sleep in her padded playbox. Which luckily worked as she slept unbothered the entire time. Let me tell you, the parents came home furious as hell. They told me how unprofessional it was for me to let a baby sleep in a dirty not ventilated no AC living room (the entire house had the same temperature and it wasn't hot). Here comes the part where I might be the asshole. I lost my cool and asked them what the 'f was wrong with them trying to distress their sleeping daughter just because they felt like talking to her. I told them they were horrible parents for causing their daughter sleep deprivation. They then told me that kids always need their parents and they could sense that their daughter was about to cry anyways. I stormed off without pay, as I didn’t want to verbally fight 2 idiots at 1 am. I did however text them asking to meet up the next day, to talk this through as "We we were all tired and not thinking straight.". I wanted to give it the benefit of the doubt, but they blocked me instead. I'm not worried about them bad mouthing me to the other families I babysit for, as they're not on social media and they're social hermits so to say. I also don't care about the money I lost that evening lol. I do worry if I might went too far with saying what I said about them being horrible parents. So AITAH? Hello! We went to a wedding on Saturday and after the ceremony (which ended around 12) we were all given an address for the reception. We get there and after we all finished eating (salads, chicken/fish), the bride and groom stand up and ask the guests to accompany them to the next location for the rest of the reception, 12 miles away. Mind you, we are about 75-100 guests. We head over, where another meal was served, a main course of Mexican food which was ok. After we finished eating, again, they stood up and asked us to accompany them to the next location for the rest of the party. No dancing, no speeches, we just sat and ate. I expected it to be a hall with a dance floor in the same building or something, but no 8 miles further, taking us into downtown LA. By now it’s 4 pm, we’ve paid $12 valet at restaurant 1 and $18 at restaurant 2. Some of the guests were a little pissed off but we all head out and went. Took about 40 minutes to get there in traffic, and it was almost 100F that day. We get to restaurant 3, this time desserts were served. $20 parking. Same thing. They got up and asked us to go to location 4 for the remainder of the evening, and they didn’t say what will be there. It was 30 miles away!!! Like 30 further out from the main wedding ceremony, and my home! At that point I’m almost 60 miles away from home. I found out later that there was an open bar and a dance floor and that’s where the “party” was… At this point i said my congrats and went home. It was already 7 pm and we were sweaty from the extreme heat, overworked, and exhausted from all the driving.

I found out yesterday that almost half the guests went home. Now I’m wondering if I did the wrong thing by leaving. I feel bad that they had to go to the main party without almost half of their guests. I also understand that they wanted to do something different and memorable with their wedding, but the driving around was just hectic. It felt inconsiderate to have almost 100 guests driving from place to place, in LA traffic, just to eat at each location rather than actually celebrate together. And that’s not even thinking about the $50 in valet we spent at the three places. I asked and venue 4 was also $18 valet. Maybe I should have just sucked it up, driven the extra 30 miles and stayed for the actual party. At the same time, it was already 7 pm and we’d been doing this for basically the entire day. I would have just sat on a chair fanning myself with my feet up. I am in sales department, and I've been looking to change my company for the same role. I had this phone interview with someone and then another two different interviews with two different people. The first 3 interviews went so well. I talked to very kind people, we had a great chemistry, everyone was professional and nice, and I believe I gave the same impression back. I had one last interview with the manager of the sales department, and then it'd be finalized. I believed it was pretty obvious that I'd be working for them in a few weeks. Boy was i so wrong. I had this interview with this older guy on zoom who is the manager of the department. During the interview, he constantly spoke in a condescending tone. It felt like constantly he was questioning how I could even do sales. He interrupted me a bunch of times just so he can flex his success and/or compare himself with me. I thought maybe he is testing me. I went with it. He then asked me about my family background and what occupation they had. They didn't do anything sales-oriented. He then said "You wouldn't be a good salesperson." I asked him to elaborate. He said sales is a skill but you can't just improve it. It has to be passed down on you by your parents. You can't learn that skill without your parents making you live in that sort of environment. I rolled my eyes and couldn't help but give an attitude with the way I looked at him. He then asked me whether my manager would talk positively about my sales history if he had called him and asked. I said given the fact that I've been working here for the past 5 years and they haven't considered firing me, I'd assume he is content with my work performance. He then said, if I was ever a good salesperson, he wouldn't let me look for another job, so he must be looking forward to seeing me go. He asked what my motivation for this job is, and I said I am good with the sales and I believe their company has a more fitting customer profile that suits me than the one I work for. He said that a good salesperson would never say such thing because a good salesperson can fit any type of customer profile, and just doesn't wait for the right profile to come out. He criticized the way I speak, the way I dress up (a button shirt and a tie, btw, which to him is the least creative outfit I could ever come up with and an ideal salesperson should always have creative ideas). He even never talked good about the sales team that works with him. He didn't directly say incompetent, but he used every other word to mean that. You get the idea, no matter what I answer, he always finds something to insult me or my skills. At the end of the interview, one last question he came up with was, "Can you sell me this pen?" like an imaginary pen we are talking about. I rolled my eyes again. My thoughts went: Really? Are you really going to decide your hiring process based on a hollywood movie scene? Are we in an acting class? Are we reprising the roles of movie characters? I cringed with that question. I simply said, "I am sorry, I am not going to do that." He nodded. "Okay. You can check with our HR team about your application later on." Even that has a hidden egoistic power pleasure in it. Like, "You need to chase us to know that we won't continue with you, we can't be bothered to take a second let you know that" sort of attitude. After fourth interview, mind you. I said, "Thank you but that will not be necessary, because I am not going to continue considering your offer." He was surprised with my reply. I know he is not the sort of guy to take a criticism and just stay silent, so I take that one second opportunity to keep talking. I said, "You've shown me the sort of toxic work environment I will be exposed to 'WHEN' I am hired, and that sort of pressure is not something I am willing to accept in my life. I don't feel like I want to use my energy to prove someone wrong on their baseless questioning of my qualities, but rather I would like to use my energy to actually get the job done." Obviously not word-by-word what I said because I can't remember what came out in my mouth in that stressful second, but that's the message I gave. He interrupted me again and said, louder, "I will not accept someone like you in my team." I just nodded and said "Not just me" and ended the call. My friend said he was probably testing my reaction and it may have been a good outcome with his friendly and leader-alike attitude after I start working there. That's a common thing and I was basically being an AH to give him that sort of attitude. Is he right? AITAH? Best of Reddit in Portuguese Best of Reddit in German Reddit, Inc. © 2026. All rights reserved. Join the most real place on the internet By continuing, you agree to our User Agreement and acknowledge that you understand the Privacy Policy .